Relationships

[Mac]

The title says it all, and i'm curious into how everyone has experienced relationships/trying to get into them.

Here's mine:- (note it's summed up but it's still pretty long)

Ok well where to begin.

Originally i liked a girl called Gemma Tong back in Secondary School...i actually forgot about her lol...but yeah the first girl i liked was a girl called Gemma Tong and she had recently broke up with her Boyfriend at the time...but i was a spotty teenager....and i mean like really bad so my self esteem was lower then limbo in hell so i tried to do anything i could to get the courage to speak to her.

Eventually i got talking to her and we talked loads on MSN, and every day i would sit next to her and we'd have fun, when christmas came along i bought her loads of gifts and she loved it....slowly over time i tried to build up the courage to ask her out....but then some other kid called Ross liked her and pretty much stole away any chance of me getting with her....which was like yeah...crap lol.

But yeah i moved on after a while and things were good in my life again...then the next encounter with a girl i liked was first year of College...her name was Claire and we got along like two peas in a pod, we'd find some way each day to have fun whether it was wrapping up in foil and scaring the dinner ladies to staring at random people sat at tables..and we'd always text each other and everything...so all looked so good until one day one of my friends told me something about her leading me on and using me...but i sorta overlooked it because only one friend said it....but then later pretty much all of them did and i ended up finding out some stuff that pretty much broke my heart.

So i ended up phoning her up and arguing the hell out with her and just saying how snitches and talkers get stitches and walkers...and pretty much never talked to her again and the worst thing was on that night i had to go to a party and she was there so i pretty much got ridiculously pissed and spent the night on a trampoline lol....anyway this one really kicked me in the nuts as far as relationships could go...but after a while i moved on.

Vanessa was the next girl i liked...i met her in College one day and also sort of talked to her when i was pissed at that party lol....but anyway when i first liked her she was with a guy called Craig so i was just a really good friend for ages...and eventually she ended up breaking up with him....which i know sucked..on her behalf but it gave me hope....hope i dont sound like an ass, ut anyway i was there for her for ages and we'd always go around and about having fun at welly and what not and we even started a cartoon series lol yeah very sad but anyway, when things were getting good she had to move down to Bristol as she transferred to a special college to study nursing..which sucked but i still got to talk to her and i planned to go see her every few weeks...so it was all good.

But then a few weeks after she moved down, she slowly stopped talking to me and my friends and eventually cut off everyone she used to know and moved on to her new friends....which pretty much kicked me in the teeth because i didn't understand why, when it was going so well...so that was another line on my life...that left me puzzled and out of the loop for quite a while.

Next in line was emmeline! I actually thought this was the girl i could spend my life with....literally, she was pretty much the mirror version of me....we always had something to talk about, although geeky as it may be we'd watch Dr Who together, Disney Movies together...we'd do pretty much everything together and we'd never have nothing to talk about...it was one of the best points in my life when it was good...i made her a christmas present and made her cry (happily) and it seemed like it was a match made in heaven....this went on for about a year and a half....and eventually i planned to ask her out...so planned out this huge thing down in blackpool because i believe on making things special...and a few days before my plan was to go ahead someone else asked her out.

When i found out about that and that she said yeah it destroyed me...i didn't know what to say, do or anything...i went really weird with her for a few days and she asked me what was up....and obviously i told her what i was going to do...and she told me she would leave him for me....but even for myself i couldn't say yes because she said yeah to him for a reason....so i let her be and it put me into about a year and a halfs worth of depression...didn't wanna see anyone, do anything it proper sucks balls...i eventually fell out with her completely...due to the way she started to talk to me.

After that my self esteem didn't even exist...took me ages to get back into the scene again...but eventually on my birthday i went out to spiders and bumped into this Asian girl called Debbie that liked me..but i literally wouldn't do anything because i had no courage to speak to her...so my friends kicked my ass lol and dropped me off in front of her...and after talking for a bit i eased up and got her number....i was amazed and we pretty much spent the whole night dancing and drinking at spiders...and i protected her from this drunk guy so it went in my favour http://209.85.48.12/html/emoticons/smile.gif

Then pretty much all the walk home my friends were being so ace to me going "whey" and everything lol, it was funny...so i pretty much couldn't wait for the next day. Next day came and we talked for hours and hours and she wanted to see me again so we planned a date around town the next day...i was estatic lol. Anyway the next day came and we met up in town...i drew her a pitcure and she did me one too(was cute you see lol) anyway we walked around town for hours talking and messing around and we held hands so everything was going great! Until....

*Ben Stiller Movie Moment*

Debbie suggested we have chinese, so i was like yeah even though i never eat chinese....but i'll eat anything on a date...so anyway we ate it...then all of a sudden my nose blocked up....but i overlooked it as just a cold....then we got into a card shop and my eyes watered and my face truned red and i began to swell lol...and i turned to Debbie and said "I think i'm having an allergic reaction ha ha" she looked worried and was like "what?" anyway we got out the shop and my reaction got worse, i started to itch like, i blacked out....i had to cit on the floor...i became ice cold....and disoreintated and then eventually had an asthma attack...it was funny in the fact that my date couldn't have gone any worse lol....but yeah just after her bus came along and she went home.

I felt awful for spoiling the date, but was puzzled to see why i had the reaction...until i got home and my mum said that Chinese Rice has almonde oil on it...which explained everything lol. Anyway yeah pretty much after that Debbie lost interest haha....just my luck...and thus another strike love life lol. After that i sorta gave up with it all cause it pretty much looked like no one wanted me or that i'd never find someone....a long timmmeeee laterlol....

Uni eventually came later and i met a girl that changed my life around, and everyday she continues to make me unbelievably happy...not even god can create something as beautiful as her...she really is like no-one else, no matter who i meet from now on will only be second best. But i want never gets.

End Of

[Raven The Dark Angel]

Mac you shouldn't wait so long before you ask girls out!

And lol my realationship stories... you don't want to know.

Pretty much everyone I've ever had feelings for has either been devistatingly rude to me or if a realationship actually starts they'll randomly turn into an overly posessive stalker of some sort. I have pretty much no luck with men and have been commented by my friends that I do something to men to make them litterally go insane. ^^;

I can tell you some funny stories. Okay so there was this dude perfectly normal and stable that when we went out as friends or at least I was under that impression took it the wrong way. After I made it perefectly clear to him on several occasions that it's just friends and never will be more he freaked out. He began to call me several times a day and there wasn't a day that went by that he didn't call me. I ignored his every phone call and as you could have guessed that ended with me changing my number. :\

There was also this other dude perfectly normal chap until he wanted a relationship with me. I don't know what the hell happened but he started to talk crazy on me and I really honestly hope it was the mushrooms he took occasionally that made him this way because next thing you know he's calling me from the psyche ward in the hospital asking for a place to stay. Needless to say I didn't offer him a place but I do clearly remember him calling my work afterwards and good thing my boss at the time that I was good friends with helped curb that stalker away.

My ex-fiance got really poessive on me and when I refused to be with him any longer he mentally snapped. The whole story is pretty outragous but to sum that one up he threatened to kill me and yet demanded that I pick him up from the airport (we lived a distance at the time) and he decided to drive to come and kill me. I told him I was going to call the cops and such and the cops were on the look out for him. He actually got caught when he PARKED his car in front of a police station to walk to my place of work. Like wtf. That was the kicker. I can't imagine what the cops thought looking at the car's plate thinking "naaaaaah that can't be the car...woe wtf it IS". But yeah he didn't go to jail because he had sooooo much money from his grandad and money talks of course. He just spent a couple of weeks in the psyche ward and wrote me letters on "I love you. I want to kill you. Why are you giving me a restrainng order????" and such.

Even when I was really young back in kindergarten I've just had stalkers on my back. There was this one kid a few houses down from me and in my class that wouldn't stop bothering me. He constantly called my name, showed up at my house, passed me notes and just pretty much was obessive on me. Ended in him moving away thank god.

But yeah I vowed never again.

Until I met my special someone now that I just simply for the life of me could not resist. I tried everything not to think about him and did every drastic tactic in the book but for some reason that guy just got inside my head and won't leave me alone. Hopefully he won't become crazy or I'm really starting to think that it's not me attracting the crazy but me making them crazy like my friends claim. :x

[Autumn]

Pff, that's a ton of wacky relationships Mac ;p

Er, besides the third grade ones, those that didn't last longer than a few days and the "sex, drugs 'n rock 'n roll" ones, I think I only had like, two in total.

First, well, that was incredibly awkward. Had been to a travelling agency with some friends of mine and while talking about the trip we had booked I literally bumped into her. Ya rly, didn't look where I was going and she just came 'round the corner. Anyhow, I helped her up and we had a laugh about it. She was headed in the same direction so basically we just joked about it. Then my friends had to take another way and so we ended up walking the last part together. And before I know it, she says "Hey, what's your number? So I can call you to confess after work." (She had some late shift or smth, don't remember)

't all went pretty good. Until she hung out with another clique of my friends and learned about some of my 'history', so to say. To cut a long story short, she felt very intimidated. Which eventually caused the break-up, after two months ;x

As for the second, I met her on the bus while I was having a relationship with the one above. She has this awesome hair and I followed the trail of it with my finger. Then she turns around and is like, "What the hell are you doing?"
"I'm following the lines of your hair"
"Why?"
"Because I think it's beautiful"

And that actually worked somehow. It wasn't my intention to hit on her at all, don't ask, I'm just weird like that. And she was weird like that. This was pretty much the relationship with the best memories so far. Lasted around two years. But yeah... Turned out she was much further in our relationship and I'm still, well, "young 'n wild 'n free" so to say. Then it came up I wanted to see more of the world... That's when things went wrong and we decided it was for the best to split up.

[Alisa_Tana]

haahaa, what relationships?

I avoided the guys in high school like the plague, cause well they were. Being in the drama group, all the relationships there were, well, drama. A lot of it.

College was quite laughable. I apparently am extremely picky (even took one of those online dating services attraction rating things and it said I should be a model scout). First guy I thought was attractive, I found out rather quickly he was gay. Second guy was straight, but not for long as I introduced him to the first guy and they started dating. (not to mention that guy2 was a complete jerk) Third guy was pining for a girl he left at home, and eventually got her to move there. Fourth guy totally played me, kept complaining how he didn't have a girlfriend, yadda yadda, until I got a phone call from his girlfriend asking me to stop talking to him. Fifth guy was completely oblivious, saw me more as a Sempai than a girl.

And as far as the guys who were interested in me, basement freaks. One of the labtechs at my school, and then a handful of guys who would come to the comic book store where I worked. The Test... they'd come into the store, see a girl at the register and assume that I didn't know anything about the stuff we sold. They'd walk the store trying to come up with some question to prove their theory, then eventually come up and ask it. After I'd prove that I knew the answer to their geeky question and passed their test, they wouldn't leave me alone. That labtech from my school in particular. My manager even sent me to the back once just to let me get away from him.

Japan, all the fellow-foreigners partnered off with Japanese girls within a week of being in Japan, and I barely spoke to any Japanese men besides my students who were off limits.

Now I'm back home, and the only guys I interact with are 8 year olds.

[JuuNi]

First guy I thought was attractive, I found out rather quickly he was gay. Second guy was straight, but not for long as I introduced him to the first guy and they started dating.

Thats awesome.

[Mac]

Wow Tana, that's a rather complex assortment of events :/

That thing about the first guy and the second guy made me chuckle :lol:, it's such an odd thing to happen lol

[Ryuk]

I'm not even sure this is worth going into on my part, all i have ever had is shit.
Ok so this will likely be kinda long...here goes

Back in college where i first met Mac i met a girl called kelly. We met in a psychology class (ironically enough) and she was the oddly dressed girl of the class sat opposite me who occasionaly stuck her tongue out at me lol. After a while our seating arrangements got switched around and we ended up on the same table, we would talk quite a lot and that moved onto emails and text messages as well. Eventually i got up the nerve to say that i liked her and she told me she had a crush on me as well and so we started dating. She was my first kiss and my first time sexually (irrelevant) but it made the relationship seem more special. Everything was great until....

One evening near christmas i walked her home from college through quite a rough neighbourhood, we were attacked and quite throroughly beaten up by a large gang. I had damage to my face and what annoyed me the most was that the gang was all males and yet they beat her up aswell. All i remember was laying on the floor, being kicked in the face repeatedly and hearing her screaming, i couldnt save her. From that point i closed off entirely, i didnt want to take her anywhere or talk to her at all, i couldnt look at her the same way after i failed her. She finished with me and got pregnant to one of my "friends" who took her away from me.

After that i was pretty broken up and i went for more of a mess around relationship with girl called veronica, i didnt know that she lied to me about how old she was, she was only 16 while i was 21 and her parents resented me and called me a pervert. I decided there was no choice but to end it because it wasnt worth it for a fling.
Shortly after that i met another girl called kellie, i really liked her and even made the mistake of telling her that i loved her. She just seemed unique and special and i tried everything i could to be with her even though she didnt feel the same. Every now and again she would send signals that maybe there was hope but the overall message was just friends. Eventually she just became ignorant to all of my efforts and pushed me away, not once did i ever actualy ask her out but she seemed to think i was obsessed with her. She told me she didnt want a friendship anymore because it was just too hard on us both to feel different ways. I fell into a depression and started drinking, not heavily but it just seemed to ease the pain. I tried everything to patch up our friendship and after my best friends brother took her away by asking her out (even though he knew what i was going through) it finally killed off any hope of even having her in my life.

But then it hit me, that the whole time i had been chasing others i had neglected the right choice that was right in front of me. I have had a special best friend for about 2 years called tanith. She is my life, my everything and actually understands me. I had heard that she told one of my friends that she had felt something for me for quite some time but never wanted to say because she felt silly (in her words) She got back with her ex bf and i told her how i felt, she told me she felt the same but didnt know what to do since she was involved....i can only hope that maybe we can have something so that i can get some relief when it comes to girls.

[Kojo]

I've dated, like 3 people. And we've all ended it on a mutual happy note, or I've moved away, or they've moved away. Nothing says you're not old enough for a serious relationship like moving away with your parents. Or they've been lecherous skanks, and cheated on me, and left me with an extra ticket to prom just because I don't sleep with girls on the first few weeks (as far as I've gotten :P may be extended according to circumstance.).

None of my relationships have been for any ulterior motives or fulfillment other than I like the girl, we had a lot of common interests, and it only mad sense to date, or to kiss, or to sit and talk to for hours. In the words of Calvin Harris: "Now baby, I've got a lot of love to give, and I've been over-- oversubscribed with relationships... I can help a player 'round for sure... Now maybe, I can learn to settle down one day... But right now, I'm livin' life to mess around and play."

No point in being serious if all I want is no drama, no hurting, and no real point. If we both know it's going no where, we are 100% honest, and we have loads of fun. No point in being serious with it, if I know full and well I'm not mature enough for it.

[Sonata]

As bad as it sounds reading some of these makes me feel better about my experiences.

Ryuk, that's tough man. I really hope you have better luck in the future.

Mac, you have the same problem as me dude. I was hanging out with this girl for about three months and I was planning on asking her out, but I didn't want it to be spur-of-the-moment, I wanted it to be special. Unfortunately I took too long and she lost interest, yeah I feel like a pretty big tool.

[Riona]

Wow... let's see here... So happens, every guy I've ever had any interest in, happens to have glasses, I found that funny. Ronove knows most of my battles. :P 8 exes in 3 years... wow... WARNING THIS IS LONG!!!!!

One of my first crushes was in High School, but I never actually dated ANYONE in High School, cause well, I found it pointless, and a waste of my time to get involved honestly. He and I actually became friends (still is friends with him) about three years ago.. actually I think it was three years ago today. O_O I mentioned to him that I actually liked him, and he said he had an interest in me to. Turned out, he couldn't get into dating due to wanting to join the national guard or.. was it coast guard... one of the two. (he used the same "excuse" later for the other one. Just can't remember which he said first.) Anyway, I was actually being asked out at my 2nd job thus far, and it was around Valentines day, gotten him a sweet gift of something he really likes, and I told him the funny coincidence that someone for a change actually showed interest in me. (I really didn't get along with people in High School, and well, after graduation, I found it odd that people actually were asking me out, cause they wanted to go out, and not because it was some cruel joke.) He basically just told me off and said "go ahead, I won't be around for much longer anyway...." ouch...

So that's how my first relationship started, I felt like shit cause I was completely pushed away and went out with the co-worker at work, for a number of reasons. 1. I wanted to know what it really meant to be in a relationship. 2. I felt really bad about the situation between me and one of my first crushes. 3. He was available.

Soon I came to realized within the first 2 months that.. yeah I wasn't interested in this guy, especially for walking into walls, and sticking his same hand... in boiling hot grease... three times.. in one month... just... wow... no intelligence what so ever! and honestly, that was a HUGE TURN OFF! It also turned out this was the same guy in High School that called me a ..... in the halls basically and I apparently beaten the shit out of him... No women should ever be called that unless they are one. Just because i had short hair at the time, doesn't mean I was interested in girls.. just because I wouldn't go out with anyone in high school, doesn't make me a lesbian, and just because I found it offensive to be considered a guy with my short hair and no interest in dating, doesn't give ANY GUY THE RIGHT TO CALL ME THAT! (really weird how many lesbians tried to ask me out... and then gotten all offensive cause I told them I don't swing that way.) ANYWAY!!!! this bastard not only raped me a good number of times (Rape cause I did say NO!) for the 8 months we were together, he also caused 2 of my pregnancy scares, decided to cheat on me the last two months, bring me flowers on my birthday and breaks up with me... Ronove, you were there! I'm so glad he joined the army to not get past basic training to come out with a brain tumor and gotten cheated on by the one girl he cheated on me with (by the way, the real irony, he was trying to get me pregnant to marry into my family, and this other girl gotten pregnant and still wanted to be with him... huh, karma is nice. ^_^) but he broke up with her, gotten a prostitute pregnant, and can't find his daughter since. ^_^ All I can say, what prostitute was so dumb and disparate to need him?

2nd ex, decided to threaten me (apparently with a knife, I'm not too sure on the details cause there's like 4 whole days I was either knocked out for or was knocked out hard enough to not remember them, but I vaguely remember some details..)by the 2nd month (out of the 4 month relationship) I had noticed he was doing something illegal apparently that i was trying to talk him out of doing, some how a movie gotten brought up in this, or the movie started the conv.. something about that movie... (btw, that illegal thing he as doing, he's stealing extra money in the treasury that people didn't get cause they weren't found, or cases were being lost and not distributed, the bastard was a hacker, and I saw what programs he used and where to find them on his comp, cause I have visual memory, I'm sure by now it's useless cause that was a good 2 years ago.) anyway, I was confronting him about it, he apparently threatened me with a knife (not too sure on this detail, he said I threatened my own life, which wouldn't make sense, but two of my friends that I was on the phone with told me later it was him with a knife, but for some reason I can't see that either, either way a knife was involved, and so was my throat.) I was trying to call anyone that would have a vehicle (checked my phone lists later to see who I called that night, and it was only people I knew that could drive.) to get me out of there, 2 out of the 3 told me about the knife. Anyway, I apparently knew something was definitely wrong, needed to get out, and next thing I do remember, I'm waking up in different clothing, it's night time instead of the day time (4 days prior, last thing I really remember was just getting off the phone with my phone provider that fucked up my password, took me 3 fucking days to get an English speaker. How can you not remember something like that?!?!?!), the back of my head throbbing in pain, laid on the bed, so much drool all over, let's put it this way, wasn't pretty. So I gotten up to ask what happened, and all he did was lie, one lie after another, school classes he didn't have, statements that didn't add up, just nothing made sense. I had checked my IM's later that week to see if i could get any info, well I found info all right, info about him being a jackass really, and I was trying to get out, took me two month to move out, and then my boss to my 4th job fucked everything up, completely screwed over my plan, he gotten pissed, hacked my comp and crashed it, (thankfully I managed to print up all the IP Addresses that gained access to my computer since we started dating.) Kept threatening me and my work place, held my stuff for ransom, I had to get 4 police reports against him, take him to court for a PPO I apparently didn't have enough evidence for (my phone bill didn't come out yet with the phone call listings for that month.) but the judge did guaranteed that she knew he was lying, but since she didn't know much about computers, she wasn't sure how to handle it, her exact words to him were "If I hear one more harassment complaint against you from her, not only will she have that PPO against you, I'll personally add extra fines to it, and if she ends up in the same classes as you, well guess what she has dibs and you better get your ass out of there!" So that ended really bad.

3rd ex, wasn't bad, he's just slow, so we broken up mutually knowing it wasn't going to get anywhere. I'm still somewhat friends with him, though, he does kinda irk me considering ... the guy has bad taste in the thinking process department.

Not only did my 4th ex used me ,but his entire family was in on it, stolen a good 3 grand from me, left me in debt and penniless, left me for dead... in a really bad place... Sure enough I will have my revenge, epically since my god father a judge he particularly doesn't like, I will have on his ass soon enough. ^_^ just letting vengeance coming to a boil first of course, and he'll never know what hit him.^_^)

This ex, actually was really nice and what not, till he decided to break up with me cause he still felt heart broken over one of his exes, wanted to be friends, so I was fine with that, then he told me to go kill myself the next week... I have no idea what happened there.

This one I hated for the fact that he treated women like their nothing but tools for sex pretty much. Sure this guy thought it was a good idea to try to rape em considering he was about 4 times my size, but he learned quick that I can just as easily beat the shit out of him. especially with foot to crotch. after the first 20+ rapes in my life with at least 5 other guys at the time, of coarse I'm going to learn some moves. we broke up and tried to be friends, but then he tried it again, and well, yeah you can see that he didn't deserve any more chances with me in his life.

We both broke up mutually since he was still in love with his ex, and i was noticing we didn't have as much in common as I would of wished, but we're still friends. Probably out of all of them I have any respect for since he actually confronted me with honesty on how he felt, and what can I say, I have no problems giving him space if that's what he wanted. We still hang out, or go see a movie once in a while, but yeah, that's about it.

This one, yeah, I'll admit it, I'm still the most heart broken about.. considering he was almost to the point of perfect, known him from like.. Jan of 08 to September. He was the only one that actually would accept me for me and make me really happy and everything, went to the beach, ate at restruants though I insisted that he wouldn't need to spend money on me, even helped me go get checked because of my past situations (not one of my exes would help me in this department, after a while I stopped asking cause well, apparently it would scare people off, I just wanted to be check as proof that I had nothing, and what would you know, I'm clean as a whistle! Like I wouldn't know my own situations and body better than anyone else... Always!!! ALWAYS!!! used protection no matter what, rape or not, protection was still present!) Anyway!!! he was so sweet, let me stay with him for a few nights, his father was welcoming, his mother was a bitch. constnatly telling him he was worthless and would never amount to anything, well I helped him move the fuck out of there and he was so much happier for it, planned on moving out closer to him, would of gone to college with him, could transfer my job closer to him and everything had it all getting set up, then... he just... stopped talking to me, completely... like i never existed, 2nd to last time I gotten a hold of him, we had a perfectly happy conversation, about what it would be like to be closer to each other and planning for D&D sessions and making character sheets, and what class courses to go for, after a month of not hearing from him, the last thing he said was "you never meant anything to me, my love for you was all a lie, I have a better girlfriend now." so... apparently taking me to one of his most secluded places that no one in his circle of friends, family, or exes ever been to, never meant anything to him... that i was just worthless shit.. and the least he could of done was be completely honest and say he wasn't interested, after helping him get away from his verbally abusive family, get a better education, move on with his life.. I just set him up to having a perfect life and leaving me behind in the dust... yeah... not a single argument, the entire time i was with him, nothing but smiles, and all of it was lies, not only did I lose a great BF, but I lost someone I could of called my Best Friend... Now.. THAT is heartless.

Well, I'm on my 9th BF now, and this one seems to be looking up.. let's just hope it stays that way.